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Stop the Agony of the Affair
Get back to your old self... or someone better
Save Your Marriage... if you really want to
"Is 'Not Knowing' Killing You Inside ... Or Your Marriage? Are You Tired of All The Lies And Excuses? Are You Afraid That You'll Confirm Your Suspicions? More Importantly, Will You Ever Find Happiness Again, If It Does Exist?"
I assume you are like 1,000s of others jolted by the affair, asking these questions: (Substitute the word she for he if you would like.)
•Do I throw him out?
•Or, should I let time heal?
•Will the affair stop?
•How long will it last?
•Can my marriage be saved?
•Should I talk to the other spouse?
•Will I ever be able to trust again?
•How do I get rid of my anger and ugly thoughts?
•Where did I fail?
•Will I ever forgive? Forget?
•Should I spy?
You are not alone! There is relief! There are answers!!!
Our Book will put on your computer screen the answers, strategies and never-before-published knowledge base you MUST have to:
Get through this faster! Gain confidence. Clear the fog of confusion and diminish the pain.
Have the crazy days, sleepless nights, absent appetite and queasy stomach fade.
Find the strength and courage you never thought you had. Exude a new power. He will notice and it will shake his world.
Know in your heart that the affair is not your fault. No more self-blame and self-loathing. (You really did your best, you know)
Know exactly why he had the affair. You will know him better than he knows himself.
In the next 6 months turn this disaster into a new opportunity.
Melt your rage and hurt into understanding and eventually compassion.
Become an expert in affairs. Outsmart him and the OP.
Be tough AND patient and understanding.
Eyeball him and he will be the first to blink.
Surprise yourself and partner with your newfound wisdom and insight.
Have a REAL chance to stop the affair. Say the right words that shake your partner to the bone so he stops to truly consider the folly of the affair.
Don't leave the affair to chance. Don't wait for "time to heal." Don't waste time with simplistic suggestions or vague generalities. Don't act out of desperation.
Use my 20 plus years of research, study, experience and therapeutic work with thousands of people to act with purpose and confidence, knowing EXACTLY what you need to do to break free from the affair.
Avoid the 2 HUGE Mistakes 95% People Make
Most people don't play it smart. They react…usually in one of two ways.
They try harder...to tolerate. They swallow….hard. They wimp out and put up with all kinds of crap. (Sorry about the language, but I assume you have thought worse.) They hope time will cure and he will come to his senses.
Often they try harder by being really nice - meeting his needs; it's called "working on the marriage." Give him what he always said he wanted and win him back.
Doesn't work. You prostitute your integrity…and deep down you know it.. and resent it. As well, you feel like you are competing with the OP (other person.)
If he does stop the affair and "comes back" it is out of guilt or pity and what do you really have then?
Others Go on the attack. Plead. Beg. Become righteous. Explode every so often. Threaten. Become depressed. Enlist the help of others. Use guilt. Use the children. Talk. Talk. Talk. Desperately make promises.
Doesn't work either. You don't have to become a basket case; it's no fun. And if he does "come back" it's out of coercion. Don't you want to be wanted rather than have him feel like he must be with you because you bullied him?
A Step-by-Step Guide that REALLY WORKS for YOUR SITUATION
Would you like a recipe, a step-by-step guide to help you break through the confusion and fear? Would you like to know the right words to say and when to say them so that they have the maximum impact? Do you want to find a way to stay connected, yet not push him away?
I have that just for you. My E-book, coming out of my 23 years of therapy private practice, gives you in-depth, proven and practical steps used effectively by hundreds of couples in the midst of marital infidelity. This e-book comes straight from the lives of those who have been there, done that. Real people, like you, trying to break free.
7 Key Steps, Guaranteed to help you Break Free… Know in your Heart that the Affair is NOT your Fault.
My E-book convinces you that the affair is not your fault. This shift in your thinking is vitally important if you truly want to break free from the affair.
The affair is HIS problem. It is THEIR problem. What you did or did not do did not "cause" the affair. He CHOSE that avenue to solve his dilemma. Did you make mistakes? Sure, we all do. Could you have done some things differently? Of course! He could have also! You are NOT defective. No one is a better lover or person than you. Nothing is wrong with you!
Please understand. I care for someone who is having an affair because they are trying to find something - like all of us. The problem: their way of finding that something is really misguided. Anyone who chooses to trade one set of problems for a worse set, or really believes that another person can make his life better or "complete" obviously isn't thinking straight.
He is either lost in his empty neediness or his life is run by his glands. Choosing an affair is temporary insanity. Affairs have absolutely nothing to do with love - everything to do with personal neediness and the narcissistic need for intense flattery. An affair is NOT the answer. Affairs don't pan out.
This is backed by over two decades of professional experience, study and research. Here are the stats:
•80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision.
•Over 75% who marry partners in an affair eventually divorce.
•If an affair replaces the marriage, it is subject to the same emotional stresses as the marriage but twice as likely to fracture.
You MUST Pinpoint the EXACT Kind of Affair Facing You
People are different, right? Well, so are affairs. Affairs are exceedingly complex, but there are patterns that you can identify.
What works to break free from one kind of affair will be disaster for another. Are you confused? Not sure what to say? What to do? Afraid that saying one thing might be destructive? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells?
Identify specifically what you are up against and you will feel more confident because you know exactly what will work and what will not work.
I've identified 7 kinds of affairs marked by the different excuses most commonly used. These types are thoroughly explained in the E-book.
#1: My Marriage Made Me Do It
#2: I Can't Say No
#3: I Don't Want to Say No
#4: I Fell Out of Love (and just love being in love)
#5: I Want to Get Back at Him/Her
#6: I Need to Prove My Desirability
#7: I Want to be Close to Someone (which means I can't stand intimacy)
Discover what Internally Drives Him to this"Act of Temporary Insanity"
People with different motives have different kinds of affairs. You will learn more about him than he knows about himself. You will understand his personality, how his past influences him, how he typically copes with relationships, his self-defeating patterns and more.
It will hit you, "this person has a problem! - and it's not all mine!" (This is not to say you don't have problems, we all do, but they have their origin in you, not someone else or an institution such as marriage.)
Once you understand each kind of affair and the kind of person who engages in that kind of affair, it all makes sense.
•You make better decisions.
•You develop more effective strategies.
•You begin to understand why it is so difficult.
•You feel more confident and centered.
•You have a road map to follow.
•And…you feel better.
The FIRST and TOUGHEST Question you MUST ask Yourself
Do you ever ask yourself why you remain with someone who is so self-destructive and has such little regard for you? Do you assume others are thinking the same thing: "Why in the world doesn't she throw him out?"
Here's the question you MUST face FIRST: Do I REALLY want to be (married) in relationship with this person?
Don't jump past this one with, "Sure, I love him… even though he's doing this." It usually is a bit more complicated.
Do I REALLY want to be married to him? Or do I want to be with him out of my own neediness? Or for other reasons?
Here's the underlying problem. If you hold on to the relationship because of your neediness or external factors, the chances of getting what you want are slim.
For each kind of affair, I'll have you consider questions you never thought about; questions that MUST be answered if you have any hope of breaking free.
You will be much clearer on what you REALLY want. He will know and he will respect that.
Realistically: What are the Odds of Saving Your Marriage?
As you might guess, the odds of saving your marriage vary according to the kind of affair facing you.
I use a scale of 1 - 10 for each kind of affair and the odds are based on the premise that you and he will continue in the same patterns. For example, I give the "My Marriage Made Me Do It" between an 8 and 9 on a scale of 1-10 where 10 means there is no way the marriage can be saved. I give the "I Want to Get Back at Him" affair (the revenge affair) a 3.
These are not arbitrary numbers. I give multiple reasons for those odds in the E-book. With Your Crystal Ball - Predict the Future Yes, you can see into the future. Affairs are predictable. Once you identify the patterns you can project ahead and know what most likely will happen next. Here are a few examples:
•You CAN know how long he will be involved in that affair.
•You CAN know whether he is more susceptible to a one-night stand or a long-term affair.
•You CAN predict whether this will be the one and only affair or whether more are down the line.
•You CAN predict the nature of his relationship with the OP.
•You CAN know whether they will live happily ever after.
•You CAN know whether it is primarily a sexual relationship or emotional relationship.
•You CAN predict how and when the affair will end.
Once you have the knowledge, once you understand the person(s), once you see the patterns, it all makes sense. How to Increase the Odds of Saving the Marriage, If that's What You Really Want To Do
Once you see the larger picture and have gathered yourself emotionally, it's time to act.
In the E-book I provide an outline of exactly what action you can take for each kind of affair. I put words into your mouth, giving you phrases you can use with your partner that fit exactly your situation.
With each kind of affair I list skills that work best with that affair and increase your chances for making significant change.
You get 16 skills that you easily learn and apply to the 7 different affairs: (you will only need to learn and apply those skills applicable to the affair facing you. I'll show you the one(s) that will work best for you.)
You will learn when and how to send messages, use silence, get to the real commitment, leap your partner, look for upset, contextualize, peel away layers to the truth, and gap the goal, to name a few.
Don't Allow this to go on for 2- 4 Years, so I'm Making a Request of You…
Most studies indicate that if you go it alone, it takes 2 - 4 years to work through and resolve the affair, whether you stay married or not. Yes, you read that right. But, you want the agony to end today or yesterday, don't you? Well, it won't…and there are no magic wands to make that happen.
But, and this is a huge but, it NEED NOT take 2-4 years.
Here's what I want you to do: Make a personal commitment to use the next 6 months to learn everything you can about infidelity and the affair facing you. Gather your strength and courage and begin using new skills to stop the affair and develop the kind of life and relationship you REALLY want.
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